Dating after divorce can be a daunting and intimidating experience. You may be eager or hesitant to get back into the dating world after your divorce, but it can be scary either way. It is a whole world of swipe left, swipe right, dating these days and may be foreign to you and can be frightening. No matter how you meet your potential date, there are five rules that I am adamant about when people ask me about dating after divorce.
How To Start Dating Again After Divorce
You know how sometimes you do something, and you know you did it well? That is how I feel about how I handled dating after my divorce.
Number 1
Don’t date until you can financially support yourself. If you can not financially support yourself, you risk getting in a new relationship based solely on financial security and risk repeating the same mistakes you did in your previous marriage.
Number 2
Don’t introduce your children to anyone you date until you are confident the relationship will go forward.
Number 3
Don’t date until you have fully healed. Take time to heal and be the best you possible. You will probably not attract the best if you are not your best. Take time to grieve so that you are ready when Mr. Wonderful comes around.
Number 4
Don’t go on a 2nd date if they are not marriage material. I am not saying you should be jumping the gun to marry again; quite the opposite. But, if you go out with someone who doesn’t meet your requirements for a future husband (even if that is ten years down the road), don’t waste your time and don’t give them false hope.
Number 5
Find someone that you enjoy being around that makes you a better person. Friendships are a great way not to have any stress of commitment and can develop into solid relationships. I am very fond of this rule. My now-husband and I were introduced in 2011 but didn’t even talk until 2012, mainly on the phone; we became best friends, and we are not sure where it turned into a relationship from 2011 until we married in 2017. There was no pressure, and we believe it is one of the reasons we have a great marriage.
Dating: What To Do After A Divorce
This is not a race between you and your ex to see who can be in a relationship fastest. Everyone has their own timeline. It may be months or years before you are ready to date.
It is essential to mention this is about dating AFTER divorce. Divorce, not separation. Yes, your divorce proceedings may take a while, but the right person will be there for you after you are divorced, and if not, it was not the right person for you.
Recap: The Rules Of Dating After Divorce
Dating after divorce doesn’t have to be scary or overwhelming. With the right mindset and some helpful tips, you can approach dating with confidence and hope for the best.
