First of all what does “find your groove” or “get your groove back” mean to you? Without knowing what you want to get back, you probably won’t get it.
Getting your groove back to me means being able to let loose, have fun, and be re-inspired.
Ready To Find Your Groove?
Getting your groove back is like getting back on your feet and ready to experience all the next chapter has for you. Here are 5 ways to be inspired to find your groove after divorce.
1. Find your crew
You need a network of friends who support you and understand you. This is about fresh starts and is a great time to step out of your comfort zone and find new friends who share your same interests. However, this does not mean leaving your current friends in the dust, but rather expanding your circle of friends.
2. Find your passion
What have you always wanted to do or try? Perhaps you didn’t do it because you were scared or were told by your ex that you couldn’t. Was it a career change, a new hobby, sports lessons, volunteering for a cause you are passionate about? Certainly, don’t get stuck in the past of being held back from following your passion, that is in the past. Focus on the present and DO IT!
3. Practice Self Care
There are 5 steps to proper self-care. Self-care will definitely help you find your groove and stay inspired to keep moving forward. It will give you a better balance in your life and overall wellness, mentally and physically.
- Proper Sleep
- Healthy food choices
- Get your heart rate up
- Surround yourself with people you love who love you back
- Do healthy things you enjoy doing
Self-care is one of the most important activities to engage in during and after a divorce.
4. Get control of your life
Has the dust even settled on your divorce? Make sure you have created a budget and have control over your finances. Are you taking the proper steps to heal? Talking to a therapist will guide you on your journey of healing. Have you forgiven those you need to forgive, including yourself? Not forgiving is like drinking the poison and waiting for the other person to die. It will make you sick and you will feel anger and bitterness.
5. Stay busy
Don’t worry about what the Housewives are doing. You can binge-watch a season later on one rainy afternoon. You may experience pain from the divorce for quite some time, but don’t put your emotions of sadness and anger in the driver’s seat. Put them in the backseat and fill your days with things that you need to do and things you enjoy doing.
Find Your Groove And Enjoy The Journey
To sum it up, this is a journey…your journey. Make it a good one and groove!
After my divorce, women were coming out of the woodworks to talk to me. They, too, felt alone inside an unhealthy marriage and wanted to know the steps I took to make it through a divorce still smiling and loving life on the other end.
This need led me to type out my actions and create “Steps To A Second Chance.”, an approach to guide women who feel all alone and drowning in self-doubt, not knowing who to confide in during the beginning stages of an unhealthy marriage.
I’m not hiding in fear but living in freedom and power, knowing my influence can champion another woman inside an unhealthy marriage. I’ve found my groove, you can too!