No one can really prepare you for the changes that come with divorce. It’s a huge life transition, and it affects every area of your life. Your relationships, your finances, your living situation – everything is up in the air. While there is no way to predict exactly how things will change, here are seven general ways your life will be different after divorce.
Embrace Change After The Divorce
You are divorced and your life will change and if anyone tells you otherwise then they lied to you. But why are you scared of change? Stop wasting energy trying to make things not change. It is impossible and you will find yourself exhausted and everything and everyone around you will have moved forward and grown while you are trying to hold onto the past.
7 Changes To Expect
Let’s take a look at the way things will change in your life now that you are divorced. What scares you? Embrace the things that scare you and choose to grow.
- You will be out of your comfort zone. You may have the urge to retreat, lay low, and just go through the same routine day after day. Guess what happens when you do this? In a year, 5 years, or 10 years, your life will look exactly the same as it does at this exact moment. Doing new things after the divorce helps you get to know yourself better and gain confidence. Stepping out of your comfort zone can bring personal growth and positive change.
- You are responsible for your choices. That’s right, no more having to watch football when you want to watch a cheesy Hallmark movie. That excites you, but the thought of having to make big decisions alone with no one to share the blame if things go wrong scares you to death. In my Divorce Without Fear Program I teach that the more informed you are, the more prepared you will be, and the more prepared you are, means the less fear you will feel. When a choice needs to be made, research, talk to the experts and ask your friends and family for their input, just don’t freeze and not make a decision because of fear. Once you make your first big decision alone, girl, there will be no stopping you.
- You can change your mind. This goes hand and hand with #2. You make a choice and it didn’t work out like how you would have liked for it too? Change your mind and do it a different way. Why? Because you can and because that is how you learn and grow. Did you think you wanted sushi for dinner, but now a steak sounds better? Go for it! You can change your mind and not have to explain yourself to anyone.
- You have to financially support yourself. You went from having the extra financial support to having to figure this all out on your own after the divorce and that can be scary. Take this time to figure out how much you have, how much you make each month, and how much you owe. Without knowing what you have, you will be scared and not know what you can afford and how to financially support yourself and plan for the future.
- Free time. Remember all of the times you have said you just need 2 minutes to yourself? Now is your time. Even if you have children, you will have more free time than you have ever had when the kids go to their other parent’s house. Don’t use this time to sit around and have a “poor pitiful me” moment. Use this time to focus on yourself.
- You get to create the life you always wanted. How many people get second chances to start over and create the life they want to live? This is your chance to dream, set your goals, and start working toward them.
- You can be all about yourself. Have you ever said “what about” me or “I wish I just had 5 minutes to myself?”. Now you can focus on yourself, which also means no more excuses. Start taking care of yourself, learn a new hobby, try a new recipe, whatever you have been putting off, now is your time to do it.
Recap: Don’t Let Fear Get In Your Way
A divorce is a life-changing event. It’s natural to be scared of all the changes that come with it. But if you can learn to embrace change, you’ll find that divorce can be one of the most empowering things that happen in your life. If you’re ready to face your fears and start living a new life after divorce, I have just the program for you. My Divorce Without Fear Program will help you navigate these difficult waters and come out on top. Don’t let fear keep you from starting over – sign up today!
