Divorce is a big change, and it can be scary. But just because something is scary doesn’t mean we should avoid it. Change is a natural part of life, and we need to embrace it if we want to grow and heal. Trying to hold onto the past is an exercise in futility. It’s like trying to hold back the tide. Sooner or later, things are going to change whether we want them to or not. And when they do, we need to be ready to accept it and move on. Otherwise, we’ll find ourselves left behind while everyone else moves on without us. Here are seven ways your life will change after divorce.
How To Begin Healing For Life After Divorce
Divorce is a tough process to go through, no matter how amicable the split may be. There are so many things that change in your life, and it can be scary to think about all of the ways things will be different, especially life after divorce. But there’s also something liberating about starting fresh after a divorce. You get to heal from the pain of your past relationship and learn to love yourself again.
- You will be out of your comfort zone. You may have the urge to retreat, lay low, and go through the same routine daily. Guess what happens when you do this? In a year, five years, or ten years, your life will look the same as it does at this exact moment. Doing new things helps you get to know yourself better and gain confidence. Stepping out of your comfort zone can bring personal growth and positive change.
- You are responsible for your choices. That’s right, no more having to watch football when you want to watch a cheesy Hallmark movie. That excites you, but the thought of having to make big decisions alone with no one to share the blame if things go wrong scares you to death. Inside my app, you’ll find my Divorce Without Fear Program, where I teach that the more informed you are, the more prepared you will be, and the more prepared you are, the less fear you will feel. When a choice needs to be made, research, talk to the experts and ask your friends and family for their input; just don’t freeze and not decide because of fear. Once you make your first big decision alone, girl, there will be no stopping you.
- You can change your mind. This goes hand and hand with #2. You make a choice, and it didn’t work out how you would have liked it to work out? Change your mind and do it a different way. Why? Because you can and because that is how you learn and grow. Did you think you wanted sushi for dinner, but now a steak sounds better? Go for it! You can change your mind and not have to explain yourself to anyone.
- You have to support yourself financially. You went from having the extra financial support to having to figure this all out on your own, which can be scary. Take this time to figure out how much you have, how much you make each month, and how much you owe. Without knowing what you have, you will be scared and not know what you can afford and how to financially support yourself and plan for the future.
- Free time. Remember all of the times you have said you need 2 minutes to yourself? Now is your time. Even if you have children, you will have more free time than ever when the kids go to their other parent’s house. Don’t use this time to sit around and have a “poor pitiful me” moment. Use this time to focus on yourself.
- You get to create the life you always wanted. How many people get second chances to start over and create the life they want to live? This is your chance to dream, set your goals, and start working toward them. Need a little extra guidance? Check out my Thriving After Divorce program inside my app.
- You can be all about yourself. Have you ever said, “what about” me or “I wish I just had 5 minutes to myself?”. Now you can focus on yourself, which also means no more excuses. Start taking care of yourself, learn a new hobby, try a new recipe, whatever you have been putting off, now is your time to do it.
“The only thing that is constant is change.”
– Heraclitus
Recap: Your Second Chance Starts Now
Divorce is a tough process to go through, but it can also be a new beginning. There are so many things that change in your life, and it can be scary to think about all of the ways things will be different. But there’s also something liberating about starting fresh after a divorce. You get to heal from the pain of your past relationship and learn to love yourself again. In many ways, life after divorce can be a new beginning. So don’t be scared of all the changes that come with it. Embrace them and start fresh.
